Do you remember the first days of your relationship with your spouse? If you were like me, your heart would flutter at a meaningful glance, flirtatious comment, or in my case, the handsomest guy I had ever met knocking on my door holding Belgian chocolate chip ice cream and asking if he could pray with me! After years of marriage, kids, demanding jobs, and hectic schedules, those fluttery feelings are distant memories. That doesn’t mean we can’t be romantic; it just means in our distraction we put it down and we need to pick it up where we left off.
One night as my husband, Mark, and I were driving home, I was feeling a little romantic. He was driving which gave me total music control, so I decided to play him a Tony Bennett song that we love. So crazy how one little switch on a playlist can change a boring car ride into a fun (or funny if you could see us singing) and romantic sing along serenade.
I’ve come to realize that one of the best parts of being married is always having someone to flirt with because at the end of the day, flirting is simply turning the ordinary moments into extraordinary moments. Unfortunately, we can forget that in the middle of our busy, distracted lives.
So here are 10 ways to flirt with your husband and make the ordinary moments in your life together extraordinary.
1. Play a love song in the car
Nothing beats turning a boring car ride into a chance for romance! Even better, pair a sappy song with an unexpected kiss at the next red light.
2. Text him when you’re in the same room
Why wait until you’re apart to text him a little something sweet? This works especially well when at a social gathering with lots of people around. You know the kind where you are huddled up with your friends and he is across the room with his friends.
3. Wear his favorite outfit
If you know he loves the way you look in that little black dress, then maybe it’s time to take it out from the back of your closet, even if the occasion is simply to dress up for him. Worried it doesn’t fit? Mark’s favorite outfit is no outfit! Try it, your husband may like it too.
4. Ask him on a date
Surprise your husband by asking him on a date! I am not particularly good at this one so give me some date ideas in the comments below. It would be appreciated!
5. Laugh at his cheesy jokes
Laughing with your man is a great way to affirm him. That includes the joke you’ve heard a million times. My kids tease Mark about this all the time, he makes the same one-liners over and over. I just laugh anyway.
6. Write him a love note
Never forget that this is the most classic way to show affection to your husband. Leave little notes where he’s sure to find them, and know that you will brighten his day.
7. Cozy up next to him
Instead of staying on your side of the bed tonight, cuddle up beside your man. Every night!
8. Dance around the kitchen
Leave the dirty dishes in the sink and pull him in close for a spontaneous slow dance. Here is where that Tony Bennett playlist is handy again.
9. Whisper something sweet
Instead of the same old conversation after a long day of work, lean over and whisper something sweet (or saucy!) into his ear. Be prepared to follow up with your favorite no outfit.
10. Kiss him
Of course, there are many more ways to flirt with your man, but this is a good start! Flirting can rekindle the spark in your relationship and remind you both of the things you first loved about each other.
Do you still flirt with your husband? Share your favorite flirtation tips in the comments below!